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“Throw a dinner party. '[Hosting] gives you and your partner a chance to work as teammates,' says licensed mental health counselor Lauren Rigney.”
“'Creating systems to increase predicability, decreases anxiety,' Rigney says, which is why many people with high-functioning anxiety spend their time at home organizing — and then organizing some more.”
“Anyone can benefit [from] therapy even if they are not diagnosed with a mental illness.”
"Being able to see a person and understand the different parts of them, and what their strengths are, and what their weaknesses are, and then teach them that and reflect that back to them so that they understand themselves at a deeper level – it really helps to overcome a lot of problems in life and a lot of issues that someone is facing."
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“Show up to your appointments and follow through on your goal setting. If you have meetings with a tutor, go. If you have a session with a counselor, attend. If your disabilities staff asks you to come to a testing center for your exam, go. In college, you have to work to set up your relationships with these people. Once you have them, use them.”
“Mood swings, whatever the cause, can have negative effects on your life… Talking through this with a professional can help you recognize when it happens, why it happens, and what strategies to use so you can work through it in a more productive way.”
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“If we experience chronic stress,” Rigney says, “our body continues to function at this heightened level and eventually believes this unhealthy state to be the way we are supposed to function.”
“What you do is important to you and therefore is something your partner should want to learn about. By not showing up, they are not experiencing things that are special to you."
The No BS Guide to Organizing Your Feelings
“Many issues that we believe are simple are actually quite complicated and confusing,” Rigney says. “If you are having difficulty, it is because making these changes is difficult. That is why professionals are around. Getting help to change unwanted patterns can be very rewarding.”
“It’s something you can do from the comfort of your home, especially if you have social anxiety, it can be a much more comfortable setting to reach out for help. Going in to see a therapist one-on-one may be too overwhelming for someone.”
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“Increasing mindfulness means focusing on what change you can affect right now, in this moment. You cannot change the past and you cannot predict the future; those are two places anxiety manifests itself. You can only affect the present time. Understanding this concept and learning to use it multiple times a day can help take your heightened anxiety and bring it into a healthy range.”